Till Death Do Us Part
My cousin posted this on facebook, makes you think (he didn’t write this, he found it himself).
When I got home that night… my wife was serving dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now. The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again. In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.ust to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office. On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her. On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. i suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’ s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have afever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart. That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I ran up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed -dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was too busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from whatever negative reaction it would have on our son, in case we pushed through with the divorce. —At least, in the eyes of our son—-I’m a loving husband…. THE SMALL DETAILS OF YOUR LIVES ARE WHAT REALLY MATTER IN A RELATIONSHIP. “IT’S NOT” the Mansion or House, the Car, Property, the Money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
I’m entirely in love with Ronald. I LOVE that somebody kept using “Batman is fictional” as a reason why Jesus would win. Just el.oh.el.
Holy shit so worth the read.
holy fucking shit omg
i lost it when he said “batman is a DC hero, i never claimed jesus was a hero of the qu’ran’
omfg
There is SO MUCH I want to say to these people. Especially Ronald. I would love that man. And I love Batman so much more now.
Ronald, you hero.
Jesus is FICTIONAL as well. prove he exists. oh a book? yeah fictional.
Day 1 - A movie that makes me happy. This movie is a great movie, I can’t think of a movie that touches me more than this one. I watch it every Christmas.
Day 01 - The very first game I played. Actually, it’s not, the first game I’ve ever played was some racing game that I cannot remember for the life of me. But yeah, I played this around the same time, so I guess it doesn’t matter :/
Day 1 - My favorite song. My mum used to play this song over and over when I was a kid, so now it reminds me of my childhood. And it’s just a great song too.
30 day challenges
I’m gonna try to do one of those 30 day challenge things, well, not one, 3 o.o
Here’s the info:
Video Game Challenge
Day 01 – The very first game you ever played
Day 02 – Your favourite video game
Day 03 – Your least favourite video game
Day 04 – Your favourite video game series
Day 05 – Your favourite multiplayer game
Day 06 – Your favourite level from a video game
Day 07 – Your least favourite level from a video game
Day 08 – Your favourite ability from a video game
Day 09 – Your favourite boss battle in a video game
Day 10 – The most challenging level you’ve played in a video game
Day 11 – The game you’ve spent the most time playing
Day 12 – The hardest video game you’ve ever played
Day 13 – Your favourite story in a video game
Day 14 – Your favourite scene or moment from a video game
Day 15 – Funniest moment in a video game
Day 16 – Your favourite main character from a video game
Day 17 – Most evil villain from a video game
Day 18 – Your favourite side-character from a video game
Day 19 – Your least favourite character in a video game
Day 20 – Hottest video game character
Day 21 – Your favourite cinematic from a video game
Day 22 – Your favourite song from a video game
Day 23 – Game with the best graphics or art style
Day 24 – Your favourite gaming genre
Day 25 – Your favourite console
Day 26 – Your favourite games development company
Day 27 – An upcoming game you’re looking forward too
Day 28 – The worst sequel to a game
Day 29 – Most obscure game you’ve ever played
Day 30 – The last game you bought
Movie Challenge
Day 01 - A movie that makes you happy
Day 02 - A movie that makes you sad/depressed
Day 03 - A movie that makes you laugh
Day 04 - A movie that scares/disturbs you
Day 05 - A movie that is energetic/exciting/thrilling
Day 06 - A movie that you think is overrated
Day 07 - A movie that you think is underrated
Day 08 - A movie you wish more people would see
Day 09 - A movie you’ve changed your mind about
Day 10 - A movie you haven’t seen that would surprise people
Day 11 - A movie people would be surprised that you like
Day 12 - A movie that is a guilty pleasure
Day 13 - A movie that reminds you of someone or an event
Day 14 - A movie from your childhood
Day 15 - A movie whose trailer is better than the movie
Day 16 - A movie with a memorable opening scene
Day 17 - A movie with a memorable death scene
Day 18 - A movie with a memorable ending
Day 19 - A movie that takes place somewhere you want to visit
Day 20 - A movie whose world you wish was real
Day 21 - A movie remake you enjoy
Day 22 - A movie you wish hadn’t been remade
Day 23 - A movie series you love
Day 24 - A movie series you hate
Day 25 - A movie with your favorite actor
Day 26 - A movie with your favorite actress
Day 27 - A movie you know all (or a lot) of the lines
Day 28 - A movie you’ve seen countless times
Day 29 - A movie you hate
Day 30 - Your favorite movie
Song Challenge
day 01 - your favorite song
day 02 - your least favorite song
day 03 - a song that makes you happy
day 04 - a song that makes you sad
day 05 - a song that reminds you of someone
day 06 - a song that reminds you of somewhere
day 07 - a song that reminds you of a certain event
day 08 - a song that you know all the words to
day 09 - a song that you can dance to
day 10 - a song that makes you fall asleep and feel relax
day 11 - a song from your favorite band
day 12 - a song from a band you hate
day 13 - a song that is a guilty pleasure
day 14 - a song that no one would expect you to love
day 15 - a song that describes you
day 16 - a song that you used to love but now hate
day 17 - a song that you hear often on the radio
day 18 - a song that you wish you heard on the radio
day 19 - a song from your favorite album
day 20 - a song that you listen to when you’re angry
day 21 - a song that you listen to when you’re happy
day 22 - a song that you listen to when you’re sad
day 23 - a song that you want to play at your wedding
day 24 - a song that you want to play at your funeral
day 25 - a song that makes you laugh
day 26 - a song that you can play on an instrument
day 27 - a song that you wish you could play
day 28 - a song that makes you feel inspired and creative
day 29 - a song from your childhood
day 30 - a song that makes you want to help the world, help the environment, end poverty, help society…
